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Quick To-Do List

I just realized I’m missing the following important items: a will, life insurance, and power of attorney.

Oh shit…

I suppose this realization is the beginning of thinking about the Speck above all else. Up to now, it wasn’t too big a deal if I keeled over. Sure CincyMommy would be a little put out probably, but give her a few weeks and she’d be back to normal. But now, well soon, there will be a helpless child who probably doesn’t want to live in the poor house if I happen to get wiped out going to the grocery store.

With that said, I’m not sure where to start. Obviously I’ve never gotten a will before, or even talked to a lawyer. Do I actually need a lawyer? And I don’t know much about life insurance, except that folks usually get it before they die mysteriously. It’s all a little confusing. I suppose I should get used to having no idea what I’m doing. Comes with the fatherhood territory, right?

Any suggestions for good references?


New Babies Cause Stress?

I just read through this wonderful post over at Ask Moxi. It’s all about how the stress of a new baby will totally drop a bomb on your marital relationship. As of yet, I hadn’t really thought about that, and it was good to get a heads up.

I spend so much time thinking about what the baby will be like, that I don’t spend any time thinking how the baby will change what CincyMommy and I are like. Apparently we’ll have exactly zero time to deal with our own issues once the little Speck makes his/ her appearance. With that said the post goes over some suggestions on how to ease the stress, and in true blogosphere fashion the comments are a goldmine for more good advice.

I’m definitely glad I read it.

Letting Kids Discover the World

A post over at The Bradstein Household pointed me to this Washington Post article. Basically the article is about parents today not letting their kids play unsupervised. Parents will point out that the world is sooo much more dangerous and kidnappers are on every corner. What a load of crap! The statistics point out that most kidnappers are relatives or at least acquaintances of the child. And the number of kidnappings has stayed relatively consistent of the past few decades.

It really boils down to all the negative stories that qualify as news these days. If all we ever see is the bad, then that is all we’ll ever expect to get.

I have fond memories of wondering the woods in my neighborhood for hours. Completely unsupervised!!! Or riding my bike to the next neighborhood to play with a friend. For a lot of parents today, this is unacceptable. I hope that when my child grows up I won’t feel the need to schedule their lives and will be able to let them explore on their own. Exploring will build self-confidence, independence and foster a love for searching and learning. Bad things will always happen, but remember the good that can come from taking acceptable risks.